My wish for my girls

I dream that my girls will one day find a great love.

I believe before they can truly experience this great love they must first be comfortable with who they are in Christ, alone.  They must know their value as his princess.  And they must know they have a purpose beyond some simple fairytale love story.  They need to be prepared to be loved.

When they are ready I wish them a love that is based on similar beliefs and feelings and a great deal of friendship, with a fantastic healthy dose of passion; not just passion for the physical but spiritual as well, a passion for life in general.

Here are the qualities I’d like for the love of their life to have.

1.        He must love God.  I want his love for God to supersede his love for my daughter.  I want him to love God and love others, making him a caring thoughtful person to all, not neglecting the need to be kind to his wife.  I want his heart to desire what God wants.

2.          He must love my daughter.  This is kind of a no brainer.  But I don’t want worship, idolize or adore.  I want LOVE.  The kind of love that respects her, cherishes her and considers her thoughts, feelings and intellect as important, that also challenges her to be the best she can be in all areas of her life.   Loves her as Christ loves the church and wants to walk beside her, not ahead or behind.

3.        He must be ready for an adventure.  I don’t want him to be a pasty face fearful person that is unwilling to take the risks that go along with following Christ.  As Steven Curtis Chapman says, “This is the Great Adventure.”  I want him to follow his heart for Christ and lead her into this life.

4.       He must talk to her, treat her with respect and admiration.  He doesn’t need to be so consumed in his life that he forgets a woman’s heart is won with words.  A woman wants a certain amount of wooing.  On the flip side of this, I want her to remember that he needs wooing of his own sort.

5.       He must be willing to work.  Work hard to provide for his family but also work hard in keeping their relationship healthy and showing their children honor respect and fantastic work ethics.

6.        He must be willing to laugh.  Willing to laugh at himself, willing to relax and have fun even doing silly things.  To just enjoy life.

7.        He must be content with life as it is.  Not to say that he shouldn’t have the drive to improve in all areas but know how to be content and happy where God has him at the time.

Most of the world wants success (monetary) and position and strive for recognition among their peers.  This is all fine, but is not a prerequisite to a happy marriage and healthy home.  These things can come with the above list of things are first met.  When the important things are in place, the motivation for success as the world sees it can come naturally.