I dream that my girls will one day find a great love.
I believe before they can truly experience this great love
they must first be comfortable with who they are in Christ, alone. They must know their value as his
princess. And they must know they have a
purpose beyond some simple fairytale love story. They need to be prepared to be loved.
When they are ready I wish them a love that is based on similar beliefs and
feelings and a great deal of friendship, with a fantastic healthy dose of
passion; not just passion for the physical but spiritual as well, a passion for
life in general.
Here are the qualities I’d like for the love of their life to have.
1. He must
love God. I want his love for God to
supersede his love for my daughter. I
want him to love God and love others, making him a caring thoughtful person to all, not neglecting the need to be kind to his wife. I want his heart to desire what God wants.
2. He must love my daughter. This is kind of a no brainer. But I don’t want worship, idolize or
adore. I want LOVE. The kind of love that respects her, cherishes
her and considers her thoughts, feelings and intellect as important, that also challenges her to be the best she can be in all areas of her life. Loves her as Christ loves the church and
wants to walk beside her, not ahead or behind.
3. He must be ready for an adventure. I don’t want him to be a pasty face fearful
person that is unwilling to take the risks that go along with following
Christ. As Steven Curtis Chapman says,
“This is the Great Adventure.” I want
him to follow his heart for Christ and lead her into this life.
4. He must talk to her, treat her with respect and
admiration. He doesn’t need to be so
consumed in his life that he forgets a woman’s heart is won with words. A woman wants a certain amount of wooing. On the flip side of this, I want her to
remember that he needs wooing of his own sort.
5. He must be willing to work. Work hard to provide for his family but also
work hard in keeping their relationship healthy and showing their children
honor respect and fantastic work ethics.
6. He must be willing to laugh. Willing to laugh at himself, willing to relax
and have fun even doing silly things. To
just enjoy life.
7. He must be content with life as it is. Not to say that he shouldn’t have the drive
to improve in all areas but know how to be content and happy where God has him
at the time.
Most of the world wants success (monetary) and position and
strive for recognition among their peers.
This is all fine, but is not a prerequisite to a happy marriage and
healthy home. These things can come with
the above list of things are first met.
When the important things are in place, the motivation for success as
the world sees it can come naturally.
